Lately, I’ve been noticing my thoughts drifting to a less-than-confident version of what they used to be. I’ll be sitting in a meeting and have a point to make, but then the thoughts start piling up.
Maybe it’s not such a good point anymore.
Is this even relevant to the conversation?
I should let other people talk, just in case they have something high-priority that we need to get to.
And, one by one, without me fully conscious of it, these little thoughts seep away my confidence and make me a generally unhappy person. Without realizing it, the days started dragging on and I became quieter and quieter, which is totally unlike me.
How do you get out of a funk like that?
I know a lot of people struggle with similar issues of self-doubt, and it’s increasingly common with young people who are competing against hundreds of others for jobs none of them are qualified for. (Whole new issue we can chat about later!)
But, a positive mindset is so important to a healthy lifestyle. Here are 4 steps that work for me that I hope really work for you too!
1. Check your thoughts. This is a good idea even if you’re not feeling down, because the way you’re thinking matters so much. Catch yourself if you’re judging people you see walking down the street or if you’re furious as someone cuts you off on your commute – if you’re not completely aware of your thoughts, a negative mindset can take over your whole day.
2.Take a walk. This is literally the best advice anyone has ever given me. If I’m feeling sad, angry, have writer’s block, feel sore – whatever the problem is, a walk is the answer. I always rolled my eyes at the people who swore by walking saying it “clears their mind” and “makes them feel whole” … but it’s magical when you start doing it! I started a new job downtown and now my walks are full of honking horns and people yelling at each other, so it’s not the tranquil stroll you’ve always imagined… I’m still trying to work out how I can fit my peaceful walks into downtown life!
3.Hang out with people who make you happy. You know who they are already. I definitely have a few friends who I can’t help but smile with, and some friends who share hours of laughs with. And then I also have friends who complain about anything and everything. I’m not saying get rid of friends who don’t share the same positive mindset philosophy, but it’s important to realize what kind of friends you’re with and how you’re feeling when you’re with them.
4.Do something different. I think part of my “blahs” came from the fact that I finished classes a few months ago, graduated, landed a new job, went on a family vacation and got engaged all in a whirlwind of events and now it’s just back to work, and not working on any projects that are too exciting at the moment. If you’re anything like me and you crave change at all hours, try taking a new class or trying new recipes or starting a blog or changing up your décor. There are endless options!
Remember that a positive mindset isn’t impossible, even if it feels like it. You’re the only one completely in control of how you feel, and you should want to feel the best that you possibly can!
I’m sure everyone has different ways of getting back to positive thinking, and I would love to hear them! Let me know what they are in the comments!
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